Today, the song that I have had in my head has been "Everybody's talking at me" Glen Campbell.
Don't think I've talked about my cousin T before. He married F in 1988. Wonderful wedding in Aberdeen, meeting relations I hadn't seen for years - or ever met for that matter. All the stops were pulled out. Then things start to get a bit strange. T's Mum seems to have a real animosity towards F and her family. We all try to look on the other side - protective Mum. It turns out that F has manic depression. Something that her family - including her father who is high up in the medical world of Aberdeen - has either ignored or not told T about.
I don't really know much until I'm talking to T on the way back from a funeral. He tells me that at the moment she is going through a phase of having to wear a different coloured "clowns" wig depending on the day of the week. On through the years, she has been sectioned several times. the most recent was when he was called out from work as she wanted to fly from the top of one of the multi story car parks. He has also told me how he needed sleep 'cos she was talking at him...gibberish...but she wouldn't let him sleep, he HAD to hear what she was saying.
I did ask if she was on medication - yes she is, but she loves the high when she's not on it. Hence the multi story episode. She has had to be sectioned AND restrained because of her not taking her medication.
Little did I realise that me saying "I don't know how you can cope with it" would have such repurcussions. T's now looking to get divorced and has met K - who is lovely. When they came to Birmingham they spoilt me (for some reason)...Cafe Rouge and Bank!